is it reli to late?

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Registered: 10-12-2007
is it reli to late?
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Fri, 10-12-2007 - 6:37am

hi, i have tlked to my frineds and family about my troubled relationship but i cant do what they say cus im so scared of loosing this guy he means the world to me here it goes...


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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 10:59am

Oh god this post was so hard to read

Anyway

Your friends and family are right. You're making the classic Woman Mistake called "But I Love Him" where you justify and accept his crappy behavior because you FEEL strongly for him. Feelings aren't enough if you're not being treated well.

I don't mean to insult you but I'm getting a very "high school sophomore" vibe from your post. If you're a high school sophomore then I suppose that's understandable but if you want a mature relationship, then you need to demand a mature relationship and act as though you deserve one. This guy is an emotional child. Adults recognize that arguments happen in a relationship, and what matters is RESOLVING arguments like adults. I have to say though, if at only two months in, you're already arguing, that's an awful sign. You shouldn't be setting stupid rules for one another, you should be enjoying one another's company and getting to know and understand the other person. What attracts you to this guy, is he really that hot? Is being treated poorly really worth your current feelings for the guy of the month? What do you see in him that could POSSIBLY indicate that he will be a lasting part of your life if he's already throwing out warnings that he'll leave?

Get smarter. Grow up. Demand the kind of relationship you want, and don't settle for being treated badly. Have SAFER sex (this is a must). And don't ever let a man dictate what you do or how you live your life. Take a stand for the rest of us women out there and don't let your emotions run on autopilot; only you can keep yourself in check and stop yourself from being treated like crap. The only man who is worth putting up with BS is Brad Pitt and sorry but I'm dating him right now

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 11:20am

hi,


i'm sorry to say but your friends and family

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 11:39am

Welcome to the board x-brunnette-babe-x,


I have to agree with the previous poster,


You don't need to be in a relationship with this guy. He doesn't respect you and doesn't want to be with you at this point. You deserve someone who will respect you and want to be in a relationship with you. Someone who won't refer to you as an embarrassment. Please let him go and work on yourself.


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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 12:15pm

Yes, this was difficult to read.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 1:31pm

Welcome to the board x-brunnette-babe-x,


Sorry for your miscarriage.

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Registered: 10-12-2007
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:50pm
sorry i will try to make this one easier to read lol, yeah we both are still young and i had just come out of a troubled relationship and he hasnt really had a proper one that ment much to him until then so to be honest i dont think he knows how to work the relationship. im just going to find out where i stand sunday and if he still trys to string me along then i will end it becasue he aint being very fair. but if he did want to try again i was thinking of us maybe going out to the cinema or bowling once a week and enjoying ourslefs and spending maybe a day a week togteher with his family as he gets along with mine well so theresnot much work needed there and yeah i thik i do have a self esteem problem and i can be really shy at times expecially if im trying to impress his family but thats not the way forward cus its ended in a disaster. thanks for all your help