It seems I picked another Loser!

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Registered: 10-03-2004
It seems I picked another Loser!
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 1:09am
I have been living with my partner now for about 9 months. I love him dearly but it seems lately I am being chosen second to all his activities. Just this past weekend, I was involved in an auto accident. I was bruised up pretty bad and we were also scheduled to move. He invited several members of his family over that same night and they stayed all night. Never offering to help ME pack or anything else. When I complained all he could say is "what can I do?" The day we moved, they all mysteriously disappeared and as hurt as I was, I had to do major moving. I am tired of being last but can't get through to him. I'm arguing he says and he won't do that. Should I cut bait and run now or what!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-03-2004 - 12:42pm
He's not going to change. Can you live with him the way he is right now? If the answer is no, then cut your losses and find someone more deserving of your attention.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 5:03pm
So he likes the relationship because you do everything? You pack, you move the stuff, you set up the house... and he sits back, goes out with friends, and leaves everything for you. How nice for him. I think you say to him, 'I'm rethinking this move. I don't feel supported or helped with the moving. I feel I'm doing all on my own and I want this to be mutual.' Let him talk, but I agree with the other reply you got, he's not going to change.


Carrie