is it time to dump him?
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is it time to dump him?
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:56am |
I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. He sees his parents only 1 or 2 times a year and he just announced to me that he's going up to Canada for the weekend to visit them. He didn't bother asking me if I'd like to come along. I found this pretty offensive, especially since we've been together for some time and most of the time people bring their sig others they've been dating to meet their parents. He's never invited me up there to see them either. I'm starting to wonder if I should just take this as a clue that he doesn't take this relationship very seriously and will probably never. Is there anyway to save this or should I just pull out now? We have a lot of fun together and I want a real strong relationship with him, but he's never really mentioned moving this forward to anything else. Our relationship has been the same for the last two years. He also shows little interest in getting to know my parents too. I'm starting to get bored and antsy.

Have you ever taken a moment to ask him where he sees himself in five years? Don't ask where he sees you and him in 5 years. Just ask where he sees himself and see if you're included in the plans.
Don't be afraid of scaring him off. After 2 years, if he scares off, then consider yourself lucky that you didn't waste any more time.