is it time to give up?
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| Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:08pm |
My husband and I have been together 4+ years, married 2. He is a great man. He provides enough for me to stay home with our two young sons. He loves me. But alas, he is not the man I consider to be "my soulmate" or "the love of my life". (Unfortunatly that ship sailed years ago due to some bad decisions on my part while I was too young and dumb to realize what I had) I do love and respect my husband, but it has never really felt "right".
Recently my husband has been telling me that I am a constant disappointment and if I were a good wife I would..... I can't help but wonder if I am unconsciencly sabotaging my marriage as a result of the way I feel. Should I leave and save him the pain? He says he will never fully give up on us and as a result will never leave me. I have suggested marriage counceling. His reply to that is I am the one that needs the counceling, he is fine.
The romance is gone. He won't touch or kiss me unless he is trying to get sex. Our sex life is becoming unsatisfying. I can't even sit next to him on the couch any more without making him feel "crowded".
If it weren't for the children I can't help but think I would have left him a while ago. My parents divorced when I was 5, and I can't tell you how many times I thought about how much easier it would have been growing up if they had stayed together. On that same note, I also grew up with my mother constantly fighting with my step-father. I don't want that for them either.
I don't know what to do anymore. Please help me!


Welcome the board btrswt22,
I agree with the previous poster. If he won't go to counseling with you, go to individual counseling yourself. Maybe when he sees how hard you are trying he will be willing to go to counseling with you.
::Recently my husband has been telling me that I am a constant disappointment and if I were a good wife I would.....
What is it that he wants/expects you to do?
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I am not really in position to talk as I am in a marraige that is now on road to nowhere, he acts as if he cant stand me most of the time, huge fights.. need to walk but cant seem to do it!!! know what you mean about being told constant disappointment, feel though it is their way of disgusing own issues