I think part of the reason he doesn't change is because he knows he doesn't have to. You keep mentioning if things don't change you'll leave but he doesn't change and you don't leave, so why should he? He knows its an empty threat.
You deserve to be happy. You shouldn't have to be miserable in your marriage. I think you need counseling even if he's unwilling to participate to work out your feelings in the situation.
Why are your friends and family so involved in your decision? Is this a religious thing? Are children involved?
It seems like you married a friend knowing full well that sex and romance was not part of the deal. Now you have to take responibility and do what is right for you.
'I want is be be truthly loved and not disrespected'
I think part of the reason he doesn't change is because he knows he doesn't have to. You keep mentioning if things don't change you'll leave but he doesn't change and you don't leave, so why should he? He knows its an empty threat.
You deserve to be happy. You shouldn't have to be miserable in your marriage. I think you need counseling even if he's unwilling to participate to work out your feelings in the situation.
Welcome to the board tazmanina2001,
You do deserve to be happy and you obviously aren't right now. I do think some indivudual counseling would be good for you.
Maybe if you asked your husband for a seperation he would see that you are serious about leaving if he doesn't change and it might make him.
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Why are your friends and family so involved in your decision? Is this a religious thing? Are children involved?
It seems like you married a friend knowing full well that sex and romance was not part of the deal. Now you have to take responibility and do what is right for you.
'I want is be be truthly loved and not disrespected'
How does he disrespect you?