Is it worth it?

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Registered: 04-06-2006
Is it worth it?
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 9:55am

I have been with my boyfriend for just 2 short months, but things got serious pretty quickly.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 11:18am

Welcome to the board canuck24,


Usually two months into the relationship couples are still in the honeymoon phase. If you are fighting already this isn't a good sign. I think the only way your relationship is going to get better is if each of you work on your individual issues. Like you with your anger and temper and him with his job issues. Then once those are fixed you might be able work things out.

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In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 12:34pm

Welcome to the board canuck24,


I agree with Coltara.

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Registered: 04-06-2006
In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 2:58pm

Just to clarify, and comment...


My temper/anger issues, are unfortunately hereditary.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:14pm

Hereditary, huh?

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Registered: 04-06-2006
In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:26pm

Wow, a little harsh there Mrs Quick to Pass Judgement


I've been extremely independant all my life, and have NEVER relied on other people.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:36pm

I'm glad to hear you are working on the anger issues, but it seems odd to pass it off as hereditary.


::As for his job, its not so much that he's a slacve per se, but that he can't say no.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: canuck24
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:46pm

....."Sounds like someone's got a case of the bitters...".....

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: canuck24
Fri, 10-26-2007 - 7:24am

These are pretty serious arguments. As others have suggested, you shouldn't be having blowouts at this stage. After two months, if you're already trying to change one another and not fitting very naturally, it's probably wise to say that this is not going to last.

It could be that you rushed this relationship too fast. But even if you rush a relationship, if a person is right for you, that won't change. Consistently arguing is a bad sign and at this point I think you should both be asking yourselves if the other person is really right for you. My thought is no.

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Registered: 02-10-2004
In reply to: canuck24
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:50am

I agree with eggbertshootsfire - it is way too early to be having issues and 'needing him to be there' - I don't think Sandradee was at all 'bitter' - she was trying to give you a little wake-up call.