is it worth saving?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2007
is it worth saving?
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Fri, 12-28-2007 - 9:23pm
i posted a message in destined for divorce about my 7 and 1/2 years of marriage. i have tried telling him exactly how i feel and had a heart to heart disscussion about our problems, but he still doesn't seem like he's willing to help out this marriage. i have been trying to work on this marriage for years and he's just oblivious. i've gotten a good job, lost 40 pounds, and i just don't know if it's worth saving....i know there are plenty of other men out there that could be romantic and take care of the house and our girls, but i don't want another man...i want him. and he doesn't realize what he has. i don't think he would be interested in counseling, it's even hard for me to get him to talk about things. i just am so tired of being with somebody who completely takes advantage of me and our kids. what should i do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2005
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 2:09am

This won't be very helpful, but I know how you are feeling...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 10:16am

What is more important to you: a relationship with this particular man, or a GOOD relationship?

Because clearly you cannot have both.