Is it worth staying?
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Is it worth staying?
| Wed, 03-12-2008 - 12:52am |
My husband and I have been married for ove a year and when it all began, I was in good shape.
| Wed, 03-12-2008 - 12:52am |
My husband and I have been married for ove a year and when it all began, I was in good shape.
I saw thi post and it actually puts words to what I am trying to say,
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At such a short amount of time into the marriage, the question "Is it worth staying?" seems to have an obvious "no" answer. The way he's treating you is unacceptable and there comes a point where you need to choose between standing up for yourself and standing up for your marriage. Constant put-downs should not come from someone who claims to love you. When you took off your ring, instead of talking to you and wanting to work it out, he had nothing to say but problems with you.
This is going to be a big one to handle and you probably won't be able to do it on your own. If you ask him to see a marriage counselor with you, note his reaction. It will tell you a lot about how far he's willing to go to be married to you. But I think that counseling together is what this is going to take.
At this point there has been and is a lot of abuse going on and also hurt feelings. The two of you need professional help to work out your feelings and sort things through. I strongly urge you to see therapists and also a couple's counsellor. We all want to change, but when things go too deep and we are not aware of what we are truly feeling, it is impossible to do so alone. You are married to him, you did love each other once, before you just let it all go, it is certainly worth taking some time to understand what happened, what patterns got activated and even if you can't work it out now together, it will certainly help you both in going forward, not repeating the same mistakes.
Best wishes,
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Welcome to the board sage2007,
Is counseling an option?
"My boyfriend and I have been living together for about a year and a half"
Funny, in your post
I agree that you need to see a marriage counselor.