It's All About Him
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| Mon, 06-21-2004 - 10:01pm |
I know him well enough that I do not believe he is cheating on me, but he has absolutely no consideration for me or my needs. When I get angry or upset about his actions, he claims I am just having a knee-jerk reaction. I should be pro-active and not allow myself to get mad. So I guess this means he can treat me like crap and I'm supposed to take it. He also says it's hormonal. He says he has had MANY relationships and have had similar conversations and it hasn't changed a thing. However, he always blames the women instead of realizing that the common denominator in all of this is HIM.
His actions are just not normal to me. He spends 3-4 or more nights/days(some time on the weekends, too) a week with "the guys". Also, he NEVER comes home before dark unless he is getting ready to go out again.
I don't know what else to do. I would appreciate any comments from the gals or guys as to what is going on and what to do about it. I love the guy, but this is driving me NUTS.

You can stay and be a doormat or you can leave and make a life for yourself.
I wish you the best of luck, in what ever choice you make just make sure it's going to make you happy too.
FYI- I'm a drunk in recovery - I've been there done that, said it all - etc. etc. etc.
Or, he is a very independent guy...and his idea of the "ideal reltaionship" is having a companion to make the duties of life easier for both of you, make financial options and opportunities more abundant for you both - but not having alot of interaction, conversation, and integration with each other - except in bed.
You pick it - 'cause either way you can't change it or him.
Erin
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