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it's not over until is over
| Mon, 11-12-2007 - 8:21pm |
Well, thanks again to those of you who have been following my story. On 10/28 my H agreed to try things and break up with OW like I requested-- according to him he is doing it because of DS who is 7. I was skeptical but I was willing to give it a try; I needed to be able to say "I tried" although I have questioned my motives lately. Why am I so into this man? It's sort of like an addiction I have concluded, and addictions are unhealthy. Just to make a very long story short, he broke up with her (had break up sex with her that same night just two days after we decided to try things), but aside from having a couple of family outings in which I basically walked 20 feet behind my DS and him, we haven't spent any time together. He is not allowing us to spend anytime alone! We have time, financial resources, baby sitters, support , family! After a week or so, I confronted him and he told me that it is all

Wow--I'm sorry you're having to go through this--I think you need to get yourself to that lawyer ASAP.
I do understand why you're feeling the way you are about the OW "winning" or whatever--but look at what she's getting, a liar and a cheater!
Sheri
Good Morning Marta,
You are not crazy and this situation just sucks for you and DS.
H is in a dream world.
Welcome back marta_joe,
I am sorry you are still dealing with all of this. I think you need to contact another divorce lawyer sooner rather than later. It is obvious that your husband is not going to give you what you want/need/deserve.
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sorry for not indenting and spacing my paragraphs... I did get tested for STD's and everything came back negative. My H and I will talk again tomorrow per his rquest. I will keep you posted. Some one told me that I'd recognize my breaking point and guess what? here it is... I am very ready for ALL or NOTHING. NOW!!!!! Again thanks for your comments; you are my support system. Again, thanks from the bottom of my heart...
Marta
update ... not good....
I know the we all could have predicted that H was going to cancel which he did....abruptly. I called angry and upset asking why he hadn't even called me to cancel. He just didn't show up. I should have predicted that. He said that he was going to call me later on. Then he said to get a "hold of myself" and stop being histerical because I was crying, and when I said that I have been very patient with him and that I just wanted to know his thoughts about him not allowing us to try things like we said we were going to 2 weeks ago, he immediately wanted to get off the phone. At that point he said that I should have been more patient with him 3 years ago (when he had his first affair) and not now. He also said that we will talk tomorrow. I feel like an idiotic stupid fool just for even agreeing to that. I don't even know myself anymore. I should file tomorrow or Friday just to help myself hold on to the little dignity I have left.