It's over, isn't it?

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Registered: 07-14-2005
It's over, isn't it?
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 8:02pm

Ok my boyfriend and I both have mental illness problems. So a few nights ago.... wednesday, I think, I was hallucinating and really scared and home alone. He was like an hour away, but I called him anyway, just looking for someone to comfort me, you know? Not much to ask, right? Well I tell him what's going on and he's just like "what do you want me to do about it?" and proceeds to talk about his stupid truck. I'm totally freaking and he's talking about a TRUCK!! Ok so then later in the night I'm so pissed I send this email saying I don't expect **** from him anymore etc etc. (I'm bipolar, my moods change fast and involve lots of anger). Well I guess he got it pretty quickly... so since then we've talked everything over and we're ok:

Until tonight- he always says he's not hiding anything and I can get on his myspace if I want, I know his password. I never have but for some reason I just felt like checking it tonight. Well I get on there and:
1. He has all these friends who look like strippers and it's like... he doesn't even know them. I asked him about that and he said "they friend me and I just say yes".
Ok but the bigger deal here...
2. He sent a message the same night that I sent the email to him to this girl... it said something along the lines of "you're so sexy and hot, i wish we had met at the gentlemens club" or something. WHAT??
So I ask if he recognizes that and he says "that's a message to an old classmate" OK another lie- she's like 5 years younger!

So that was all over the phone- then I hung up on him. This was an hour ago, he hasn't called back.

I'd be a complete idiot to take him back after this, right? I mean there can't be any possible justification for this.

This is so hard, though. We have been together for a year and I really do love him. UGH!

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 12:25am
Yeah, Id move on....

lips

lips

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 4:43pm

Welcome to the baord meggem2005,


This would be unacceptable to me:


2. He sent a message the same night that I sent the email to him to this girl... it said something along the lines of "you're so sexy and hot, i wish we had met at the gentlemens club" or something. WHAT??
So I ask if he recognizes that and he says "that's a message to an old classmate" OK another lie- she's like 5 years younger!


If he's unwilling to work on the issues, like in counseling together, there is no point to hanging on.


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Registered: 07-14-2005
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 8:52pm
Well it's over for sure. Not only did he lie about that- I check his email (because now I don't trust him, right?) And come to find out the day BEFORE- we're still completely and totally together, I haven't sent him any email yet, he joins some dating web site. On the profile it says he's looking for a woman who will dress sexy for him and wear heels and cuddle up to him. So over with. I'm about to call him and let him know.