Jealous of the past-help!
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Jealous of the past-help!
| Mon, 07-23-2007 - 9:37am |
Hello-
I have been with my bf for almost a year. We were living about 2 hours away and a couple of weeks ago, he moved to the city I live in. He is a great guy and I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. Here is my problem-I'm obsessed with his past. He has been with a lot more girls than I have been with guys and I'm always asking questions and he always answers me honestly and then I get upset....why and I doing this to myself and why can't I stop when I clearly know that I'm hurting only myself and potentially ruining this relationship...I have no fears that he will cheat on me and he goes out of his way to reassure me that I am the one he wants and so on....please help!
I have been with my bf for almost a year. We were living about 2 hours away and a couple of weeks ago, he moved to the city I live in. He is a great guy and I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. Here is my problem-I'm obsessed with his past. He has been with a lot more girls than I have been with guys and I'm always asking questions and he always answers me honestly and then I get upset....why and I doing this to myself and why can't I stop when I clearly know that I'm hurting only myself and potentially ruining this relationship...I have no fears that he will cheat on me and he goes out of his way to reassure me that I am the one he wants and so on....please help!

Welcome to the board cctb2006,
You are sabotaging your relationship.
You should ask him to tone it down. "hey, listen I'm not a jealous person or anything, but it tends to bother me when you tell me about how crazy you were over you ex and I'd rather not have to hear that. I feel kind of disrespected when you do that."
Either he'll feel badly and stop doing it, or he'll become whiny and tell you that you're overreacting. Hopefully he deals with it well, you shouldn't have to listen to him talk about how great his ex was.