Jealousy - Handling It..
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|Fri, 05-30-2003 - 2:29pm|
Need an answer for tonight.
4 year relationship..Im 21 shes 20...This week coming up shes going to "senior week" at and Ocean Nearby for a favor for a younger friend of hers. The younger friend doesnt have any one to stay with and she asked my GF to take her down there. Basically its a popular beach where graduating high school and college seniors go down after graduation. A lot of drinking partying..and just hanging out with friends.
Our relationship has been up and down and recently hit a new low with her wanting out. The last two weeks though it has improved as Ive been going to counseling and reading books like Dr Phils relationship rescue. Bottom line is that it got familiar and boring but we are working on it. In the past she cheated on me by kissing one her long time guy friends but I believe we have worked past that. Also in the past she has gone to "senior week" and clubs and other things that upset me. The big thing that has caused so much pain in our relationship is my jealusy and controlling attitude which I admit too. In the past I would ask her where she is and all other questions that pushed her away. Also any guy friends she has..which is a lot...Ive pretty much butted in on thier friendships because Ive been so insecure. Now its to the point where hide those friendships from me and whenever anythings mentioned about it we fight.
Now dont get me wrong..for the exception of her kissing her one friend she has been true and faithful to me and I believe these guys are just friends. The problem is that with her going to senior week I just dont know what to say...act..or feel. I want to talk to her about it..ask her what shell be doing down there..or whatever...just to let her know that I hope with all my heart shes faithful and will not hurt me. Being that in the past this blew up how should I handle it? Should I just ignore it all together and just say "Have Fun"....should I calmy try and talk to her? If so..what should be said?
Im going to attempt to do whatever you guys say tonight so please help if you can..Im really at a loss...