Jealousy Problems
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Jealousy Problems
| Sat, 01-31-2004 - 11:12am |
I have a jealousy problem(I admit it) that is causing a lot of strain in my relationship , the problem is that my boyfriend is now saying to me that if I dont change we will have to break up . I know that I gotta change and that takes time but now I feel afraid that he will leave me if I we have another fight or somenthing. He had never done somenthing bad to me he is a good guy , but for some reason I am always fighting for somenthing , he now is away in a business assigment and since he left , thats when the problems truly began. I feel that if you love someone you do with their good things and bad , he in the other hand thinks that even though he loves me he dosent have to take my jealousy .
Who is wrong here?

That is a very simplistic, cut-and-dry statement. Do you think this is true of abusive behavior and cheating?
If your jealousy is so bad that you spend a lot of time accusing him of looking at other women or not wanting him to watch movies with pretty actresses or not wanting him to have friends that are girls then you are putting a lot of pressure on him. Also, you are sending a huge message to him that you don't trust him. Relationships are based on trust.
He is right.
If you want to change, then get help. See a counselor and find out the root of your problem. Why are you so jealous? Did your parents have a tumultous relationship with one of them cheating or accusing the other? Have you been cheated on in the past?
I recommend getting some counseling. You've taken the first big step in admitting you have this problem and the desire to do what you can to change it. I say there's plenty of hope for you yet! :)
Jennifer
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