Just Best Friends?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2003
Just Best Friends?
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Sat, 01-31-2004 - 8:16pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. Before that he had been my best friend for over 5 years. I love him, I always have. I have been attracted to him and had a crush on him for the entire 5 years we have knowen each other, he said hes felt the same way. I've always wanted to be with him more than anything else and have been so attracted to him as a person, him sexually, him in every way.

Since we started dating however, I feel like things have changed. I am often nervous around him and just don't know what to say at times. I think this is because I am not sure if I am attracted to him anymore. I want to be so badly, hes the perfect man and all I've ever wanted, but sometimes I just don't feel it anymore. I feel almost as though we have grown apart since we started dating, I want him as my best friend first and foremost. I love being more with him but I miss the way things were. Is it possible to be best friends and lovers? Should I stay with him, I know if I break up with him it will be the biggest regret of my life, I just don't feel it right now...or am I just thinking too much?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 5:46pm
Can you figure out what changed? The fantasy of not having him fueled desire? Now you got him and don't want what you have? The thrill of the chase?

I hope someone else has some ideas for you.


Carrie