just can't let things go

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Registered: 10-11-2008
just can't let things go
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Sat, 10-11-2008 - 3:43pm

so my boyfriend and i broke up in june

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 5:40pm

Relationships are a dance, it's never one sided. If you always feel less confident with this boyfriend, take a look and see if there's something he may be doing to make you feel that way? Are you nervous when other's take some space? Are you this way in all your romantic relationships? If you are, then you just need to work more on building self esteem. If not, then, as I said, there maybe something going on in the dynamic between the two of you that's fuel for the fire. There are many fine books available on building one's sense of self and relationships. I recommend Zen and the Art of Falling in Love. I do think it will address all the issues you are struggling with.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 7:41pm

If he perceives you as clingy or insecure thenyou need to stop dating him, as hard as it might be.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 7:59pm

Welcome to the board katydid4212,


You've done good work and I hope you continue with it.