Just friends now?

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Registered: 10-30-2003
Just friends now?
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 4:48pm
I do think I would be happier out of this relationship. Im not sure I will end it, but its a thought. But I dont want him out of my life, just not my bf. Iv been thinking alot the past few days, knowing inside that I just cant be his lover. But I think it would really destroy him to hear that, I dont know. We live basicly as roomates now, saying it would just make it official. I have no idea how I would say this to him, or anything (iv never broken up with anyone before)
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 5:30pm
I don't know why you feel you can't be his lover any more, but I know sometimes sex just detracts from a relationship, rather than adds to it. So I can empathize with that. I guess I would say to just tell him honestly, but tactfully, whatever you're feeling. If you're just "room-mates" now, it's possible he's feeling the same and it would be a relief to both. Best wishes.
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 5:37pm
We havetn had sex in months, my choice, I dont like sex and its even worse with someone Im not attracted to. I know he doesnt want to break up, he keeps telling me how much he loves me and that he wants to marry me some day :S Its me thats been unhappy for a long time. I asked him for break from "anything romantic" in the relationship about a month ago becsue I just couldnt handle it anymore. I told it I was just haveing a bad spell with my illness and needed some space, wich is true.
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 5:54pm
I would just portray it as you care about him and want him to find someone who can really reciprocate the feelings.
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 6:30pm
I say end it with him but he may find it painful to remain friends/roommates. I believe you need to take that chance though since you do not feel any romantic inclinations towards him. I think you should give him and yourself a chance at a mutually loving, romantic relationship and end this one.