Just friends? Please help me~~
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Just friends? Please help me~~
| Sat, 07-24-2004 - 10:19pm |
I began talking to someone that I had met 10 years ago. It's been 4 months now. We started off with me making a phone call to him then we began talking online almost everyday then after one month we deceided we were going to get together, he just recently graduated from college and has been unable to find a job so he said that we'd have to do something that didn't involve money. So we talked on a parking lot for 11 1/2 hours in seperate vehicles but we had a ball. Let me just say he is VERY shy! Anyhow then we started talking on the phone or online everyday. Then a month later he asked me to come to a car show were he would be and I did and he came over in front of his family and talked to me and when he got called away he asked me to hang around for him, which I did and he was so busy I told him I was leaving and he just punched me on the arm and said I'll see ya later.Then the next day I called him and he met me and came out to my house for a cookout then later he called to ask me and my son to come over to his house. My son didn't go but I did. He lives with his grandmother so I went over and I met her and we sat in his room for like 5 hours then we walked over to his sister's and stayed another 5 hours and he picks and punches me and then there are times that he just gives me these really long stares that drives me crazy!! The night ended without a kiss! But we have continued to talk everyday intill recently, I have a friend that likes to cause problems for everyone and she sent him an email and said a bunch of things that are untrue and it upset him and he blew up saying he doesn't want a bunch of drama in his life and that he hoped that he didn't lead me on. I was like excuse me? So, then he began to say that he wasn't going to just blow me off and doesn't plan on hurting me but that he can't even begin to think about dating intill he has his career in order. Of course I was extremely upset and he kept telling me to calm down that everything is ok and then acted like nothing ever happened. Then he went in hiding, no email, no calls. So I called him and he was a little reserved at first but then acted like he had always and made it a point to tell me he had been working hard on finding a job. I am so utterly confused it's not even funny!! Today is another day with no word. With all of his actions leading in 12 diffrent ways what should I do?? Please help me

First...who gave "your friend" permission to send off emails to this man? It's none of her damn business about where your relationship is (or isn't) going...and she messed things up with her stupidity! Now if this was something YOU encouraged...then you're as much to blame as your friend is!
Actually...Pianoguy would respond in the same cautious manner if a 'well-meaning meddling friend' sent him a dumb email like the one YOUR FRIEND sent!
I guess if the two of you can talk for more than 5 hours at his grandmother's and sister's houses...and 11 hours in a parking lot...there are at least 1 or 2 things you both have in common? But if the man is presently looking for work...or has other interests (cars, perhaps?)...don't try to figure out the relationship between you. He might really like you, but LIKE doesn't always mean: LOVE!
Pianoguy