just a hug

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Registered: 05-26-2004
just a hug
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 4:00pm
i meet the man of my dreams about 4months ago i have the best chemistry with him.after hangin out for almost 2 months we deceied to become a couple, we were well know by our friends as the "perfect couple" . We really never fight he hasd told me many times i was his best friend. the other night we where at the grocery store picking up a few things , and i saw a good friend of myn who is a guy , and he called me over to him so i went over to him gave him a hug and talked to him about him and his girlfriend, after we finshed talking i walked back over to my boyfriend and he flipped out on me , after that he wouldnt look at me or talk to me , we didnt talk that night at all when we usaully talk every night. that night i went home and of course doing the thing a girl does best , and i cryed my selft to sleep. i hate when anyone is mad at me and of course when its my boyfriend and my best friend.the next day i saw him we talked a litlle he wasnt as touchy as usaul, he didnt seem like he had much atraction to me at all. we did kiss but i felt like he didnt enjoy it, i also found out he is talking to his ex girlfirend.he makes comment in fornmt of me about other girls that hurt me. i want o know if there is anything i can do to make him want me agian , his my best friend i dont want to lose him, please help me.
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Registered: 05-25-2004
In reply to: she_devil69
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 8:21pm
They are all "men of our dreams" during the first 3-4 months. And then they show their true colors.

You are worried too much about what he thinks about you and not enough about what you think of him. His childish, jealous behavior is not acceptable. You did nothing wrong.

It won't get better in time, it will get worse. Consider this a blessing in disguise that you found out his true colors now.

I think you should find other men to date. And this time go slower.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: she_devil69
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 8:54pm
Did you introduce your bf to your friend? Did you take him along, or leave him standing there while you approached your friend? If you didn't take him along and introduce them, then I can understand that your bf might think your behavior rude.

However, since he's 'i also found out he is talking to his ex girlfirend.he makes comment in fornmt of me about other girls that hurt me' I'd say he's punishing you and looking for an excuse to end the relationship and you hugging another guy is his EXCUSE.

Can you get him to want you again? Probably, but not until he cools down, but then how long before he finds another excuse or decides he wants his ex-gf back?


Carrie

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: she_devil69
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 8:40pm

It seems as though this "man of your dreams" wants his cake and eat it too....


Basically, its ok to talk to his ex, but not for you to talk to yours(and yours isnt even an ex, is it?)In other words, he has insecurites that will only get worse if you let him continue this behavior. And, by crying your slef to sleep, you lead yourself to beleive that you did something wrong, when in fact, I dont feel as you did.


My advice to you would be to have a serious talk with him, letting him know where you stand on this and dont back down...


good luck,