Just looking for an outisiders opinion

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Just looking for an outisiders opinion
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 2:41pm

I met Jarrell, my boyfriend of 7 months, online. When we got together it was pure bliss. We were so in love, he was my soulmate I felt. Last October he completed his new house he was building and slowly but surely I moved in. Now things have changed. But i undertand certain things, or atleast I want to understand. He works a physically demanding job (construction in the FL sun all day) and has new responsibilities as a homeowner. I pay for the utilities, but he has to make a $1200 mortgage payment, which I don't help out with, I am not on the title, and I buy groceries, things for the house etc.. which he is fine with. So our "in love bliss" has faded. But like i said i can understand it to a degree. But then something happened. My friends "think" they caught him cheating on me. I was with my other friends, when one girl called and claimed she saw my man, with a girl we both work with at our weekend job (a restuarant, i waitress he busses, and the girl is both our friend) hugging her "numerous times" in a "romantic manner" and one person who was with her (not my friend herself) claims he saw them kiss. He has denied everything. I have given him plenty of outs, I have told him that even if he did do it, I want to work past it if he would just tell me the truth. Now my 2 friends who I was with HATE him, they think he is rude and nasty, and they think I can do better. He is neither of these things to me, he is nasty to them, they are a good 5 years younger than myself, and show it and are not good influences and kinda stupid, but fun girls. My other girlfriends, who were not with me that night and are my age,PLUS my father, say the same thing, in a DARK parking lot, how do u tell what a hug means, and that the story just doesn't fit together and Jarrell doesn't seem like the kind of man who would do this to me. He is

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:14pm

....."over time I have read your posts and I have disagreed with your advice, your values and your opinions about 90% of the time".....


Gosh, that makes me feel exceptionally good!

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 5:37pm

"Gosh, that makes me feel exceptionally good!

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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 2:57pm
Thank you very much, actually thank you everyone, excpet Snafu of course. Um things are progressing, and getting better, I mean wonderful, we go on dates, and we cuddle on the couch and I am getting better, but sometimes i just cant shake the depressed feeling, like i have become the crazy obsessed girl instead of the fun girl he fell in love with. Its hard to snap back. I am trying though. thank you all again.

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