just need advice

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Registered: 10-12-2004
just need advice
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 1:05pm
okay this is pretty dumb but its on my mind and i dont really have anyone to talk to it about and i just want an outsiders advice. to start i havent had many relationships. but my friend introduced me to someone and i really didn't think much of him but when we started talking and stuff i realized "hey i like this guy" then he started giving me a massage on my shoulders and he was doing little stuff lke touching my sneaker laces and poking me. okay then my friend claims that after that he was asking oh if i was going over there( so that he could go)and stuff. eventually we see each other again NOW here his ex comes(they were going out for 3 yr but she cheated on him)he says he cant be with her cause he doesn't trust her.It was very obvious she was still in love with him.that time we spoke more and she walked in on us talking and u can tell she was very mad. he mention sumtin like oh shes jealous and i was like " dont be too close so she wont be" and he said "i dont care let her be". so eventually i call him and that day we spoke twice on the phone randomly he mentioned how his ex was like a stalker and the type of girl he likes and that stuff towards the end he was suppose to go but he said "ahh that can wait alittle longer" he also mentioned how he would call by the end of that week , well a week has passed and nothing, I just want to know if he likes me like whats the deal if aything can happen, i dont know im confused if anyone has any advice or what they think id be helpful thanks
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 2:47pm
Even if he likes you, he's not done with her. Save yourself the heartache and protect your heart. He's not ready. He's not healed from his break-up with her.


Carrie

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Registered: 07-10-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 3:48pm
Well...i think it all depends. How long have him and his ex been broken up? And u said that his ex walked in on u guys talking? Does he still hang out with his ex? because if they just recently broke up, maybe he just needs some time to get over her. But if they've been broken up for awhile and he still talks to her alot, then maybe i would start to get worried. if he isn't over her by now, maybe he never will be.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 8:10pm
He told you he would call and he didn't. Don't hold your breath. Concentrate on meeting other people who don't have an ex to contend with.
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Registered: 09-26-2004
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 1:58am
Sounds like he's still tangled up with his ex and possibly he was using you to make her jealous. He did'nt call so he is not interested. Forget him.