just wondering

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Registered: 09-14-2004
just wondering
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 6:18pm
Is it considered betrayel or cheating if my close freind kissed another girl (which he knows many years ago) or becoming almost intimate with her?? I'm just wondering since we're in no strings attached relationships, and we started kissing just a month ago...


thanks

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Registered: 10-02-2003
In reply to: lana449
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 6:25pm
It's no string attached relationship..that means no strings. There's no such thing as cheating in this sort of relationship. Obviously, there are a few "heart strings" attached on your part. I'd suggest you stop this relationship as is. If you want this guy to be your BF, then talk aboutit with him. If he's not interested, then quit kissing him. You'll just get hurt.
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Registered: 05-13-2004
In reply to: lana449
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 6:28pm
First, just out of curiosity, how old are you?

Second, in my opinion the "no strings attatched" method is VERY hard to deal with, because it usually ends up with one person falling for the other and getting hurt. Anyway, you can't even called something with no strings a relationship. A relationship, to me, is when 2 people are together, and it sounds like you guys are just fooling around. So no...it's not cheating. You said yourself that he is a close friend. It sounds like you guys are just fooling around. If this bothers you...or him, maybe one of you has deeper feelings and wants more than just fooling around. If that's the case, talk to eachother and decide if thats an option. If it's not an option, maybe you guys should just stop fooling around and go your seperate ways.

Good luck.