Keep fighting or leave?
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|Wed, 07-10-2013 - 3:53pm|
My husband and I have been having problems for more than a year. We've been in counciling but he hasn't really been trying. He's told me over the past few weeks that he gave up on our marriage years ago and does not believe he can ever be happy with me again.
After he told me that he will never be happy, I went to look at an apartment and priced some furniture. It's hard to even think about my life without him after being together for more than half my life and having two kids together. But I was prepared to move on, get my apartment and start a new life for me and my kids.
The other night, he asked me what would change if we stayed together. I told him that I would do anything I had to to do help us become happy again because I love him and want to make this work. He finally told me that he didn't want to hurt the kids by telling them that we were getting a divorce, he doesn't want to hurt me by leaving and he doesn't want to worry about me financially if we weren't together. I told him that I want him to stay and work on this because he WANTS to make it work and be happy again, not because of the kids or because he feels sorry for me.
He told me that if he stays, it would only be because of those things.
Now I have to decide if I want to stay in a marriage with a man who is only there out of pity and not wanting to hurt me and the kids or if I want to hurt my kids and move on.
I truly love him and know in my heart that we could be happy again if he just gave us an honest chance but he does't seem willing to do that.