Kids want ex to come back

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2004
Kids want ex to come back
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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 8:11am
my male friends kids want their mom to come back home and he has told me that he doesnt want her to come back because of what the mother did in the past by leaving the kids. I told him i wouldnt take a chance with having the mother come back into the kids lives because of the chance of the mother leaving again. Was that a good response?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 2:03pm

Does he want to post here?


I think we need more info about why she left, how long she has been gone, what their relationship was like before she left and whether the environment in the house was better for the kids with their mom there. Of course they want their mom back. Has she had partial custody? Is she a good mother?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2004
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 2:29pm
she just left the kids because she got involved with someone useing drugs. she has been gone a year this month, has fines like you wouldnt believe because she just got out of jail 2 different times in the last week. the father has full custody that was awarded by the court. i told the father he needs to look at the road ahead instead of just looking at today.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 2:48pm

Welcome to this board lilsb2002,


I answered you on the other board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 5:48pm
Sounds to me like she needs supervised visitation with her kids until she is rehabilitated.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 6:36pm

Welcome to the board,


If he has full custody that was awarded to him by the courts then tell him to stick with what it says.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2004
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 10:42pm
thank you all so much for replying. me and him talked and i explained to him about what i thought she would do. he agreed and after me telling him he said he realizes now what the mother is trying to do. thank you all
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 8:09pm
No problem glad we could help out.