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| Sat, 07-07-2007 - 11:38pm |
here is my dilemna - i love my bf and i know that he loves me too. my only concern is there is barely any sexual intimacy in our relationship anymore. i know sex is not the main basis of a relationship,but it plays a great deal, doesnt it?
here is the background: in the beginning of our relationship, we are fine. things are just great -everything esp. the intimacy part. Until we got to a discussion about pregnancy. thats when things started going downhill. He made it clear from the beginning that he is not ready for a baby yet - (neither do i) at least not at this time. Ive been in bc pills, but i stopped per physician's advice due to my heart condition. we practice other birth control methods but he is still not satisfied with them. he is afraid of getting me pregnant. according to him, we would rather minimize sex than taking the chance of getting me pregnant. although we are both old enough and financially settled to have a child, i dont think we are ready for such big responsiblity yet. we are both in the peak of our careers and having a child at this time is really not a good idea. i know he has a point. my boyfriend has always been logical and rational about things.
he never failed to show how much he cares about me and loves. in fact, i would say, our relationship is too good to be true (aside from this problem). i once considered breaking up with him because it got to the point where i felt like the intimacy was gone and i felt like he is treating me more like a friend or a sister rather than a his girlfriend. it got to the point when i felt like even if i probably lay naked next to him, he will not do anything at all. i dont want any children yet, but i dont want to be deprived of my needs too. HELP?! what can or shall i do about this situation?

There are plenty of satisfying sexual acts that don't involve intercourse. Have you spoken about this?
Do you think this is about more than pregnancy? Is he affectionate?