kissing emergency

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Registered: 02-25-2004
kissing emergency
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 8:03am
hello,I'm writing you from far away..italy.i've come to the point where i need someone professional to help me out cause i've thought and tried them all..and i dunno..I'm 29 and my DH is 27, we've been together almost 3 yrs now.Married since april.I'm Italian he's american, i say this cause according to him it's a main ingredient.So my problem is kissing.When we met it was great he was passionate, kissing all the time it was perfect in every sense..The second year it started to dissapear and now we are down to pecks.When i get close he turns around, he kisses me every where but in little pecks.i've confronted him many times, we've talked about it..i thought it was an past ex's maybe,some event in the past,he sais it's nothing of all this.he said at fisrt italian women are too passionate,but i told him that any woman that loves her man is passionate no matter the culture..i tried to explain that it all starts there..in the kiss how can i know i still love him if he won't kiss me since a year??he doesn't get it..he said he'll try..but the point is , if your in love you don't try to kiss, it comes natural...you know what i mean?I dunno how to approach it any more, i don't want to freeze him..although i may already have, but i can't live a life with a man that can't kiss the woman he loves...why is it so hard?Our sex life starts else where without kisses and it saddens me so..it feels cold..and it all used to be so sweet and warm.he sais the probs are:diff.culture and its not his way of kissing.so i told him i'm not asking for him to do anything else but relax his lips and let go...i probably scared him and will have years to wait..it hurts and thatswhy i'm here .I love him and i don't want to loose him for a kiss ...but it's fundamental for a woman to feel loved and that's how i feel love ..in a simple kiss..please help if you can, thank for your tme and patience..j
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: jmakeup
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 5:19pm
Consider trying to get a copy of this book:

The 10 Second Kiss by Ellen Kreidman

Kissing is about sharing intimacy. And I agree with you, when you are first in love it comes naturally and you don't even think about it, it just happens. What you guy might not know is that for women it's one of the best foreplay techinques.


Carrie