Kissing my co-worker...what am i doing?!
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| Wed, 05-28-2008 - 9:24pm |
Hi all, today i did the unthinkable, here's the background info:
my co-worker and i have become good friends. he's a year older than me and is cool. recently his cubicle was moved right beside mine and we're a bit isolated. we talk all the time and go for lunch together every day... we just became friends. i even tried hooking him up with my good friend. we talk about everything and we innocently flirt all the time and one day our conversation turned to sex. during the course of our conversation, the truth started to come up about how he felt about me sexually and vice versa.
today during our break, we began to talk about naughty stuff in general and i told him that if i was not in a relationship, we would have had sex already..big mistake.
sexual feelings began to grow again and today we decided that we were just going to kiss to release the sexual tension and stupidly, i tought that it was not cheating (at least not the worst). we ended up making out in the back of his car after work today in the parking lot. i immediately felt guilty!!
i have a boyfried of one year and we love each other. he really feels like i'm the one and he makes me so happy but knowing that my co-worker and i are doing tis and knowing that it's wrong turns me on.
if my b/f did this, i will be devastated and i need to think about his feelings but part of me wants me to continue with this "affair" because when i was younger, guys never wanted me and thought i was fat. now that they are interested in me, i'm enjoying this but it's at the expence of my bf
please give me advice. i obviously know i need to stop what's going on with my co-worker but i always justify my actions. please please give me advice. am i going to hell ecause i feel like the biggest sinner and hypocrite

"but part of me wants me to continue with this "affair" because when i was younger, guys never wanted me and thought i was fat. now that they are interested in me, i'm enjoying this but it's at the expence of my bf"
If you are going to make this a habit with guys that show interest, perhaps you ought to break up with your boyfriend.
''please give me advice. i obviously know i need to stop what's going on with my co-worker but i always justify my actions. please please give me advice. am i going to hell ecause i feel like the biggest sinner and hypocrite''
How about getting some self respect, so that you can show respect to your bf and your relationship.
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hi all, after reading about the 4th posting, i felt HORRIBLE!! I couldn't stop craying and i felt like the biggest fool for treating my boyfriend like that
i instantly called him around 8 and asked him to come over (he lives about a 20 min drive from me) he came and i told him everything about me and my co-worker. just seeing the hurt in his eyes nearly killed me. i cried so much because i felt like a total tool. we talked about it for about 3-4 hours and discussed our relationship and why i felt i needed to do that with my co-worker
naturally he told me that his trust for me has weakened and i accept that but we've decided that we are going to make things work because even though we've only been together just short of 1 year, we have experienced so much. i know what i need to do on my end and i'm going to fulfill it.
thank you for your replies. if it wasn't so brutally honest and truthful, i think i would have made matters worse! wish me luck!!