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Last Night...Sex Problems
| Thu, 07-19-2007 - 12:15pm |
Thanks so much!
Edited 7/19/2007 1:55 pm ET by jennyroll007
Edited 7/19/2007 1:55 pm ET by jennyroll007
| Thu, 07-19-2007 - 12:15pm |
Your feelings have to do with you, not him. They are extreme and not in keeping with reality. The fact that you had some pain has nothing to do with failing him or anyone. Sometimes pain occurs. So what? The most important point is to make sure you are healthy and nothing is wrong. Fortunately, you feel you are okay and that's good. If you have anymore pain go check it with a doctor.
We are human beings and allowed to have times when we don't feel well, have pain, or are just plain not in the mood for sex. Your relationship cannot be built upon your being a sex object for him - one who is thrown away when she doesn't perform well for one night. That seems to be your idea of what you should be. I don't see any evidence that he feels that way. You are jumping to a conclusion to project those ideas onto him. However, if for some reason, he does pull away because of that, then he would certainly not be a person you would want to be in a relationship with.
Sit down and develop self worth. Realize what a realtionship is based upon and what you bring of value to the table. Value yourself and value him as well. If these negative thoughts persist, go talk to a therapist about them.
Best wishes,
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