In Law Issues.

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Registered: 06-17-2003
In Law Issues.
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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 8:35am
I really don't know what to do about my fiance's mother and step dad. Currently we are living with them and yesterday our cat, who is about a year old, was acting quite loopy so we took her to the vets and they said she had some pretty life threatening issues. We had no idea what happened to her at first but after going through all possibilites they had come to the conclusion she had ingested an anti depressant that was laying around on the floor. Now i know it wasn't intentional and i don't blame them for having these symptoms it just angers me because she has done many things regarding our cat that really makes me mad. For instance..she's an indoor cat and yet they let her out and just "wait for her to come back" when we have asked many times
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 10:32am
You need to move out. You are both adults and should have your own place, especially now that you are having a child. That will solve the problem.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 10:45am

Keep the cat inside your bedroom!


Can you not afford to mve out?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 2:27pm

Welcome to the board justcallmeprincess,


I'm sure it's very hard for your guy to see and/or admit the truth of his parents behavior.

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Registered: 09-02-2005
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 2:42pm

I think your in laws might be subtly trying to tell you that they don't want you there anymore.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 2:58pm

I hate to judge ... I really do ... but, for crimminy sake ... MOVE OUT!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 12:23am

Your cat got into your inlaws meds... and you want them to apologise and expect them to offer to pay for the treatment?!? Are you kidding?!? Its THEIR house. YOUR cat got into THEIR meds. You should be apologising TO THEM. Keep the cat out of their things. Just as it will be your responsibility to keep your child out of other people's things. If their home is not suitable for you, your pet, or kids, MOVE OUT.

They have already done more than enough for you by letting you live there. You and your H need to be responsible for yourselves and get your own place to live.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 6:03pm

Your relationship is with him and not his parents. It does not sound like a good idea to keep living with them. I know there must be reasons why you are there, but if I were you I'd do my best to find some other place to live, especially with a new baby coming. It sounds as though she is angry and nasty and probably not aware of the damage she does or can do. I think you are right to wonder about how safe it would be to stay on there. At the very least, emotionally, it is creating a real hardship for you.


Try your best to find some other place so you can create your own new family and save your relationship, your own peace of mind and start fresh in a healthy way with your child.


best wishes,