IN LAWS LIVE WITH ME. HELP!
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IN LAWS LIVE WITH ME. HELP!
| Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:22pm |
My MIL moved in with my husband and I after we relocated to Richmond, VA. We stayed with her initially to get ourselves stable, then decided to move out. We wanted a place of our own. Unfortunatley she moved with us. We have lived together for a total of 3 years. Recently we bought a home and thought she would move out out of conscience. No such luck. Three months ago. My SIL and her 3 children moved in because her husband went to jail for life (drugs). She is 24. I am 27. I'm not her mother. My MIL mentioned something about my SIL wanting to move in initially. Anyway, my SIL has moved in without our consent. She now has 4 children (by 5 different daddies). She was pregnant when she moved in and never told us. My MIL knew and hid it. No my MIL, 4 children, in addition to my two, and my SIL live with us. I did not agree with her moving in and told my husband so numerous times. He never acted on it. I had to talk to my MIL finally. She asked for six months to move. I agreed. They have two months left and I don't see any action. No apartment hunting, nothing. Initially they found a home that they wanted to move into, but claimed it was too small. They'd rather live with us in a 1400 sq foot home--10 people 4 adults and six children.
I can't live like this. They are all filthy. I clean up after all of them. My SIL doesn't tend to her children. I do. The children have destroyed my son's room. Neither of them contribute fairly to the bills. My husband and I pay the mortgage and all the other bills including food, while they pay a little over 100 dollars a month. Even my mom has told them they need to leave. None of our friends will come to visit anymore. They're still in my home. I think they want my husband and I to split up. Since, Their marriages have ended in divorce or separation.
I'm tired of stressing myself out for lazy women who only mooch and do not perform their share. I didn't grow up like this. Everyone in my Husband's family belongs on Jerry Springer. Including his sister and mother. I'm on my last leg. I want to move out and possibly never come back. Ilove my husband, but I've had enough and want to leave.
What should I do. I've already told them they need to leave.

You poor thing. Do you have anywhere to go? If you do, you could very calmly pack your things and leave. Tell your husband in the very nicest way that you love him but that you won't come back until all the relatives are gone. Make sure you don't give in. A friend of mine did that. It worked nicely.
Take care of yourself.
C
I am not sure this is possible. You two are allowing other people to move in. So you have to be the ones to let them know that you need your life back.
'They have two months left and I don't see any action.'
You need to remind them. Let your husband know that you are serious. Either they leave or you do and be prepared to act on it.