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| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 3:10pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We live about an hour away from each other and knew that it would be tough to have a relationship because of the distance but we have managed to make it work for the most part. For the past couple months we have done nothing but argue almost every single day. It all started 2 or 3 months ago when he had made plans with me to go to the movies but 2 hours before he was supposed to be at my house he asks if I cared if he played basketball instead. He had known about this game for 2 weeks and told me he was not going to play so we made plans. I was really crushed that he wanted to ditch me to play basketball, he knew how bad my feelings were hurt but he played anyway. This is becoming an every week thing where he tells me we will do something together and in the end he chooses to do something else instead. I can't make plans with him because he has become so undependable. He tells me I make plans with him several days in advance and he can't help that his friends call him at the last minute wanting to do things with him. It makes me feel like i'm his last choice because 95% of the time picks them over me. He thinks it's ok though because he doesn't TELL me he's doing something else..he always asks if it's ok with me but I hate telling him no, it's not ok because I dont want to tell him what to do and I dont want him to feel that he has to spend every spare minute he has with me.
Around the time all those problems started he was fired from his job. He has hardly attempted to look for a job. He stays up all night playing video games, workin on his truck or watching tv then he sleeps until 1 or 2 the next day. He says he's waiting for a 'good job' to come along..something he can do for many years to come. He is 20 years old..it's time to grow up! There are bills he needs to pay and responsiblities he needs to take care of..there is no time to waste waiting for the perfect job offer. I want a boyfriend who can take me out places, one that i can depend on and won't always be letting me down. I know he can be like that because he was like that when we first met. I can't talk to him about any of this because he gets so angry. He always tells me things will get better but they dont! And if they do it's only for a couple days and then they go right back to the way it was before. I want it to work out with him more then anything, but i feel like it's not normal to have this many problems when we haven't even been together very long. I need some opinions on what to do!

Welcome to the board goingcrazy785,
It sounds like maybe your bf isn't mature enough yet to be in a long term committed relationship. The next time he tries to cancel plans with you to hang out with his friends tell him something like you can if you want, but I was really hoping to see you and spend some time together because I miss you. If he doesn't take the hint, you will know where you and the relationship stand to him.
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Hi goingcrazy,
Simply, you are not his prioity.