Lazy Husband

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Lazy Husband
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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 4:36am

My husband and I have been mostly happily married for five years. We are still good friends and enjoy being together. He is a wonderful father and a good provider. We both decided I should stay at home with our two little ones and it's been a great decision however we are most definitely on a budget.


My concern is only about my husband's lack of motivation. We live in a older house and many things need repairing. He has let this all go or has started numerous unfinished projects and in turn our house is falling apart. We have two cars just sitting in the driveway that do not work. And one car that will probably give out any day. He has good intentions but never seems to get anything done. I would love it if he would help more around the house and become interested in taking care of his responsibilities.


I have tried talking, crying, negotiating, screaming, making lists, making charts, nagging, reminding, etc for five years. Everything short of doing it myself. Things may work for a few days but then eventually he goes back to sitting around or wasting time doing nothing much. He agrees that he has a problem but we can't seem to get past it. We are on a limited budget and I already feel sick about having to pay someone to mow our yard when my able husband could be doing it himself. I do everything else around the house and can barely keep up with the day to day chores, cooking, and child care.


Any suggestions short of leaving or murder???

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Registered: 12-28-2007
In reply to: sagesmommy06
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 6:44am

My sister had the same husband.


He is not going to change, he is who is he is.


My sister ended up divorcing the guy because he was not only lazy around the house he was lazy with the kids to.

Missy
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: sagesmommy06
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 12:33pm

Welcome to the board sagesmommy06,


Could be your husband is like misssy2's former brother-in-law, or it could be that your husband has a different reason for being unmotivated - maybe he's depressed, maybe

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Registered: 07-29-2002
In reply to: sagesmommy06
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 12:45pm

It could be that he is either overwhelmed or depressed.

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