Learn to trust again?

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Learn to trust again?
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 4:27pm
I am having a great deal of stress over some past indiscretions my husband of 1 year has made. A week into our marriage, he moved out of state and I was to join him a week later (he's in the army)...he promised me he wouldn't go to any clubs or "single atmospheres" (he has a "player" past) but I later discovered that he did just that, and met and hung out with 3 girls and some of his single friends. He assures me nothing physical happened, and for the most part, I believe him. What I am having trouble believing is that he's trustworthy again when his job will once again lead him miles away from me. I am so scared, I can't take it. What's even worse, when I share these feelings with him, he seems to think what he did shouldn't have any bearing on how things are currently. Should I trust him when he's been dishonest in the past? And if so, HOW?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 4:43pm
Trust your gut feeling. He lied and that would be enough for me. Does he know how his lying makes you feel?


Carrie

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 5:32pm
I know he realizes he hurt me, but not to the extent I want him to. I think I would feel a lot better if he really groveled...made me see how sorry he truly was. But that's not going to happen, because he feels it happened very long ago and it wasn't even that big of a deal. I don't care if nothing physical happened, the whole situation was shady and hurtful. I just need someone else to tell me that I'm not overreacting over this matter.