Left holding the baby!!!!???
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Left holding the baby!!!!???
| Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:43pm |
Need help! Got married 10 months ago and have a 4month old baby. Whirlwind rel, seemed gr8 to begin with, always together...etc. Now, i seem left holding the baby. Hubby rarely in before midnight. Feel so alone, why has my life changed so much and he still has the freedom to be out til whenever? Talked about it, screamed about it, still no change. So confused. Night after night I sit indoors whilst hes out there. To top it he doesnt work and all the pressure for the mortgage and bills is on me.Really need guidance on this one. What do I do?

Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com
Think of it this way. It's like this now, and it likely won't change. Sitting at home alone with a baby every evening isn't a life - unless one would really dig that I suppose. Sounds like you don't. First, boot him - one less expense. Then see what other kinds of supports are available in your community:
- see if your mortgage is reasonable for you on your own - you're doing it on your own now - maybe you can have it adjusted to make things a bit easier for yourself. Then you can call it all yours.
- are there people around you who are willing to spend time with your baby so you can have some time out with friends; so you can have real relationships or even time to go shopping without a child on your arm all the time.
Been there, done that. I'm on my own now, but not alone and lonely. Doesn't matter what the age - it can happen to anyone. Take care.
Carrie