Left me , but says he still loves me, wh
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Left me , but says he still loves me, wh
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:51pm |
I'm a 26 yearl old female. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years and lived together 3 years. he has two kids from two different women, and i have one child from another man. Its been hard, but we've gotten through it. his kids live with their moms and we get them every other weekend. My daughter lives with us. He left me to move with his friend, basiclly the house is all guys. He says he still loves me, and he's willing to help me get my things moved into a one bedroom apt i am getting where we currently lived in a two bedroom. and he'll help me set everything up and get settled. he says he'll come by and see me, and there will be weekends where he wont want to be where he's living at now because they have little parties on the weekends and he may be tired or whatever, so he can come stay with me. he says he loves me and cares for me, but he just needs his space, and his freedom. he's not all that good looking, but i love him for whats on the inside and to me of course i am attractive to him. I wnat him back, and i love him. its been a rough week since he left, i haven't eaten, i try and i just thrrow it up, i cant sleep. he tells me he hates seeing me like this, he cares for me and loves me. do you think he'll come back? did he just need to test out what freedom used to be to him? is he going through a midlife crisis?- he's turning 30 in oct. please give me advice.
he says he doesnt want any strings, or any girlfriend right now. i am trying to give him space but its hard. what should i do.
he says he doesnt want any strings, or any girlfriend right now. i am trying to give him space but its hard. what should i do.

You can THROW UP all you want...but all the puke in the world won't change things! YOU have a b/f who expects a relationship when he's in the mood! He gets to call the shots and make the rules 100% of the time! Pianoguy is amazed it has taken you 3 years of your life to "catch on" to his game!
Who cares if he's ugly on the outside...his motives on the inside are even uglier! Do yourself a favor---DUMP HIM---and move on with your life!
Pianoguy
Take care of you. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. That means, draw a line, set a boundary with him. Don't hang on every word, fall for every line.
You have to be strong and well (healthy) for your child. That should be your number one concern. Of course you are hurt, disappointed, want more and you will have to grieve for the end of the relationship, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been, for what might have been. Journal writing, exercise, eating right, etc. Please take care of you.
Reading material to consider:
Don’t Call that Man – The Survival Guide to Letting Go – Rhonda Finding
Rebuilding When a Relationship Ends, Bruce Fisher
Olive Juice...and Other Thoughts on Love, Heartbreak and Moving Forward by Eric Champnella
I Used to Miss Him...But My Aim is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide by Alison James
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse
Self Matters, Phil McGraw
The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz
Men Are Like Waffles - Women Are Like Spaghetti, Bill & Pam Farrel
What Smart Women Know, Steven Carter & Julia Sokol
My best to you.
Carrie
I have another book for you to read. Its "Shacking Up: 40 Reasons Why Not to (Wise Advice from Someone Who Has)" by Anne James-Sieff.