I know chase4mandy's situation worked out well... But I don't think I can agree with her. She didn't accept who he was and she kept working at him to get him to open up, and eventually it worked because they were right for one another. That's the risk she took and it was worth it to her.
The downside of that risk is that it's not always a matter of trust. Not everyone is expressive with their feelings, and not everyone is dysfunctional or untrusting for feeling that way. There's no book of love that dictates that you must be emotionally open. Some people just aren't.
If you want to continue to date her then you should, but give yourself some time to recognize whether or not this is the right or wrong relationship for you based on what you want from a woman. If you really need someone open and generous with affection and emotion then I will say that you're probably not throwing your hat in the right ring.
If you are in a relationship, it's important to honor and respect the way your partner functions and responds. If she has been raised in a different way, it may feel overwhelming to her to be bombarded by all your thoughts and feelings. Although this is natural to you, due to the way you have been raised, it may not feel good to her. She may simply need more time and boundaries. Setting up boundaries in a relationship is very important and also very delicate. Both parties should be sensitive to one another and come to a place where both are comfortable. You need to express yourself, but perhaps you can tone it down so that she can actually take in what you have to say. She is used to being less expressive and she has to tone it up, so you can feel that who you are is also valued and expressed. It's just
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My personal opinion is that less isn't better. I love telling my DH that I love him, miss him,
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'She is not very expressive especially with her feelings. '
This is part of who she is and it isn't going to change unless she wants it to. Don't ask her to change or you will drive more of a wedge between you.
'I just
I would have to disagree with just accepting her.
I know chase4mandy's situation worked out well... But I don't think I can agree with her. She didn't accept who he was and she kept working at him to get him to open up, and eventually it worked because they were right for one another. That's the risk she took and it was worth it to her.
The downside of that risk is that it's not always a matter of trust. Not everyone is expressive with their feelings, and not everyone is dysfunctional or untrusting for feeling that way. There's no book of love that dictates that you must be emotionally open. Some people just aren't.
If you want to continue to date her then you should, but give yourself some time to recognize whether or not this is the right or wrong relationship for you based on what you want from a woman. If you really need someone open and generous with affection and emotion then I will say that you're probably not throwing your hat in the right ring.
'If someone loves you they would want to kiss you and hug you and be affectionate, right?'
It isn't that simple. People have varying degrees of affection and different
I wasn't stating that as a fact that applied to everyone....it applied to me.
If you are in a relationship, it's important to honor and respect the way your partner functions and responds. If she has been raised in a different way, it may feel overwhelming to her to be bombarded by all your thoughts and feelings. Although this is natural to you, due to the way you have been raised, it may not feel good to her. She may simply need more time and boundaries. Setting up boundaries in a relationship is very important and also very delicate. Both parties should be sensitive to one another and come to a place where both are comfortable. You need to express yourself, but perhaps you can tone it down so that she can actually take in what you have to say. She is used to being less expressive and she has to tone it up, so you can feel that who you are is also valued and expressed. It's just
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She may very well be expressing herself to you in a way that isn't exactly making it all the way across the pond, if you get what I mean.