letting go
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| Sat, 05-15-2004 - 2:43am |
just a little background... we were first loves; first everything... we dated off and on for a year. attraction is still there, even today; but its clear that it won't work out so we both decided to follow the plan of dating other people and go separate ways, grow up and finding ourselves.
it's weird because his best friend and i have this connection that has potential to develope into a romance. he is ok with it, because he trusts his best friend, especially trusts him with me, knowing his friend would treat me well, perhaps even better than he could (in his own words). my ex is also finding himself attracted to one of my good friends. it's hard on me a little bit, knowing this is the the love to whom i would've given everything, now findhing himself liking my friend. but i gotta follow the plan of letting each other date others, etc. so somehow i gotta accept that and let him seek his interest with my friend, i mean, it's as good as with anyone else.
so any advice on how to let go? how to see it as a positive opportunities for growth? how to be ok with him and my friend? its a good start already, but i just need some encouragements and justifications to support me along. thank you very much!

You mentioned a lot of things. I think that are completey separate from each other. Letting go of someone, or trying to move on, usually doesn't also include being okay with them dating your friends. Have you ever thought that maybe he is okay with you dating his friend, so that you can be okay with him dating yours?
Are you on of the mind set that it takes a strong person to be okay with your ex dating your friends? I am not so sure about this whole thing. It almost sounds like a game to me.
-amy- "CL-fiesty"
i think you are also right in the fact that... i shouldn't move on by dating other guys, and if something's not ok with me, i don't have to pretend to be the bigger person and to be ok with it... actually, i just won't even worry about it anymore. there are other things i need to focus on, such as friendship, family, and work, etc. all i know is i gotta let him go, if it takes time, and focus on my own healing. thank you for your advices.