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| Mon, 01-12-2004 - 8:06pm |
MY HUSBAND IS 33-IN THE NAVY-AND HANGS OUT WITH 21 AND 22 YEAR-OLDS. HE GOES OUT WITH THEM AFTER WORK AND DRINKS WITH THEM AND COMES HOME AND LIES ABOUT IT. RECENTLY HE GOT HOME AT 4 IN THE A.M., AND COME TO FIND OUT,HE NEVER WENT TO WORK THAT DAY, AND HE HAD BOUGHT A BRAND NEW OUTFIT TO GO TO A STRIP CLUB WITH HIS LITTLE FRIENDS. TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE, WE JUST HAD A BABY GIRL 7 WEEKS AGO, AND HE'S BEEN GOING TO THESE STRIP CLUBS THE WHOLE TIME I WAS PREGNANT. WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT THINGS THAT SHOULDN'T HAPPEN WHILE WE'RE MARRIED, WITHOUT THE CONSENT OF THE OTHER SPOUSE, AND THIS WAS ONE OF THEM.
SINCE I FOUND OUT, HE CONTINUES TO COME HOME LATE, AFTER DRINKING WITH HIS LITTLE FRIENDS AND LIES ALL THE TIME. I TOLD HIM TO DECIDE BETWEEN HIS FAMILY OR HIS FRIENDS AND DRINKING-DOES THAT SOUND LIKE A FAIR THING TO DO? OR SHOULD I CHANGE MY STRATEGY TO GET THROUGH TO HIM THAT I'VE PUT UP WITH ENOUGH?
SINCE I FOUND OUT, HE CONTINUES TO COME HOME LATE, AFTER DRINKING WITH HIS LITTLE FRIENDS AND LIES ALL THE TIME. I TOLD HIM TO DECIDE BETWEEN HIS FAMILY OR HIS FRIENDS AND DRINKING-DOES THAT SOUND LIKE A FAIR THING TO DO? OR SHOULD I CHANGE MY STRATEGY TO GET THROUGH TO HIM THAT I'VE PUT UP WITH ENOUGH?

There is nothing wrong with an ultimatum if it is logical, benefits you and your daughter for the better and you are fully prepared to back it up.
Just conveniently "forget" to come home a few nights(go stay w/a girlfriend,family,whatever...) Make HIM wonder YOUR whereabouts!!
I wish you well in this & please keep up-dated on the situation! HUGS!!!!