Libido mistake
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| Thu, 12-25-2008 - 1:20pm |
I've just started posting questions on several of the boards here. My 8 year marriage (great guy, two wonderful kids) is about to end because for the last 4 years, our sex life has been nearly non-existent. My husband and I have different libido levels and I have to take the responsibility for not encouraging sex. Unfortunately, it looks like most readers at iVillage agree that he's right to want to end the relationship based on a lack of sex. I have naively thought that he would love me, no matter what, and find myself depressed, panicked, shocked and at a loss of what to do. He hasn't made any decisions, but he is certainly wondering if we should stay together if we're not both happy.
I wouldn't say we are happy, but we are comfortable and I expected to live out my life with him. Now, at 48 years old, with two kids, I'm terrified of starting over and, since I still love him, don't want to start over.
We have tried counseling in the past year and he says he doesn't want to do it again. What should I do now?

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I understand your pain.
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