Is lieing ok?

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Registered: 10-30-2003
Is lieing ok?
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 5:21pm
My BF told me that he had been lieing to me for the last 3 weeks, abut losing his job. I'm not at all upset about the job, the issue is 100% that he lied. Read this for the background http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlcouplescou/?msg=8002.1 Lieing is a "dealbreaker" with me, but deep down inside I don't want to lose him. Even though I am very angry and betrayed that he lied. Basicly I don't know what to do. Is what he did considered ok in most relationships? What would the "right" thing for me to do be?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: outcast79
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 5:33pm
Read "When Your Lover is a Liar" by Susan Forward before you do anything.

IF you decide you want to try to make things work with him, there is a very specific plan of action you should follow, as well as certain minimum requirements that you need to impose on him as a condition of your staying in the relationship.

The book will help you sort out your thoughts. I recommend going out and getting it tonight or this weekend.

Sheri