Lies about age
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| Tue, 06-19-2007 - 9:22am |
I recently found out that my boyfriend (he is 38 and I am 25) of 7 months lied about his age to me. We met online so he lied on the site. He also lied directly to my face when I asked him how old he was, as well as letting me look fairly foolish when his birthday came around and we celebrated his 36th birthday. I told him I do not like to be lied to and asked him if he lied about anything else but he said no. He even tried to turn it around on me asking me if I had been looking through his passport and stuff (we live together)...I told him I saw his ID and switched the subject back calmly. Although it has been two days since we had this conversation I feel like I still need to have a talk with him about how my trust in him is a little wobbly right now. I am doubtful because he managed to look directly at me and, without flinching, lied. I'm not even sure if he felt guilty about it on his birthday...which might redeem him a little. Any advice? Should I just drop the subject at this point or can I bring it back up in a way? When I had a talk with him about it before I was more focused on the issue of what else he might have lied about and less on the fact that I was unsure of him- period- for being able to directly lie to me. I know 2 years isn't a big lie but a 13 year age gap is a little larger than what I was expecting. I do love him and would like to work this out however.
He told me he lied because he doesn't like the fact that he is getting older. I know he is sensitive about the subject because he is always having me pluck his one or two gray hairs that come in. I've tried to reassure him but I think it is something he needs to work out on his own at this point.
Edited 6/19/2007 9:27 am ET by confused_girl25
Edited 6/19/2007 10:26 am ET by confused_girl25

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Welcome to the board justice598,
Thanks for participating....This board moves pretty quickly and I'm wondering how you found the original post since it is nearly a year
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