Lies,Lies and more Lies
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Lies,Lies and more Lies
| Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:24am |
I have been married to this man for only 8 months (whom I thought was a wonderful human being) we moved out of his house 3 months ago. Would of moved out sooner, but my house was being rented out. Let me tell you all the lies that I have encountered in these few months. Plus all the crap my boys and myself have gone through.
Took my son's stereo, never to be found again
took my son's gift certificate
took my son's battery out of his car and put his old one back in w/o telling anyone
Took my wedding rings
took my cell phone
took my son's JD tractor that was a gift from him, I recovered that one back
Keeps files on myself and my oldest son
put my sports car up on hoists for the winter last yr, because I wanted to take my son to work~told me its not a convience car.
NEVER told me about his first wife of 9 yrs and 3 childeren that he adopted out (OMG)
Told me he has never been to Hawaii (because we were going to go there on our honeymoon, found out he got married over there to his 3rd wife. (OMG)
Locked me out of the bedroon twice, then felt bad and wantd me back in
Verbally abused my oldest son by calling him terrible names to his face. He now says he feels bad and that wasn't the right thing to do.
never plowed out the driveway so I could go to work, he knew I could not get out, but he could, he has a 4 wheel drive truck 2 of them and he would not let me take one. He did not have the time to plow the night before because he had things to do in the office to he told me to take some of my \money and hire someone. or to have my boys shovel...this driveway is 1/2 mile long we lived on 10 acres.
Took my son's stereo, never to be found again
took my son's gift certificate
took my son's battery out of his car and put his old one back in w/o telling anyone
Took my wedding rings
took my cell phone
took my son's JD tractor that was a gift from him, I recovered that one back
Keeps files on myself and my oldest son
put my sports car up on hoists for the winter last yr, because I wanted to take my son to work~told me its not a convience car.
NEVER told me about his first wife of 9 yrs and 3 childeren that he adopted out (OMG)
Told me he has never been to Hawaii (because we were going to go there on our honeymoon, found out he got married over there to his 3rd wife. (OMG)
Locked me out of the bedroon twice, then felt bad and wantd me back in
Verbally abused my oldest son by calling him terrible names to his face. He now says he feels bad and that wasn't the right thing to do.
never plowed out the driveway so I could go to work, he knew I could not get out, but he could, he has a 4 wheel drive truck 2 of them and he would not let me take one. He did not have the time to plow the night before because he had things to do in the office to he told me to take some of my \money and hire someone. or to have my boys shovel...this driveway is 1/2 mile long we lived on 10 acres.
I think the ONE thing that stands out in my head and I lost alot of love for him is when my son got in an accident falling off a car hitting his face on the pavement going 20 mile per hour. and I asked my husband "you acted like you didn't even care and his response was "I DON'T" I lightening bolt went through my body at that point and I had tears in my eyes.
But yet he loves me and feels rejected that I left...and Wants me back. He thinks that I did not take my vows seriously and "I DO" menas "I DO". What Mom will stand by and put up with this.
I have talked with his 2nd and 3rd wife and they tell me pretty much the same thing.
I feel Like I was duped.
Would you be scared to go back to this situation?
thank you for listening, Victoria

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Two women so far have gotten out alive, and have thrived and moved on.
If you follow thier lead - you and your children will have the same ending.
If you go back...there is no telling what the possibilities are for you and your children. Did you hear about the woman who's 3 children were decapitated in Baltimore.....he doesn't like your kids, he resents the intrusion and expense, he sees them as a threat and a nuisance...the risk to your children is enormous.
Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com
I can not imagine any loving mother putting her children in such a terrible and threatening situation.
His comment about you saying "I DO" is crap. By his definition, in saying 'I DO', you give permission for the other to treat you however badly they see fit and you are to just take it indefinitely. But, does he really believe his definition? Does the "I DO" promise go both ways? No, of course not!!!! If it did, you are allowed to treat him however you want and he would be continuing to love and cherish you anyway. Wait a minute.....that assumes he did love and cherish you....NOT!!! The way he treated you essentially nullified the marriage vow thereby releasing you from your contractual obligation. Let's also remember the very real fact that you said "I DO" under false pretences. He used fraud and deceit to elicit this "I DO" from you.
This guy is a LIAR! He lies and uses people for his own benefit and admittedly DOES NOT CARE about you or your children, only what he can get from you. His track record proves it. He's a LIAR! Why are you even listening to a single word he says? TELL HIM TO GET LOST! STOP TALKING TO HIM and STOP LISTENING TO HIS LIES!
Have you sought out counseling yet? Please, please contact someone trained in the dynamics of abuse and save yourself and your children from your own bad judgment.
Keep looking up^, Susan.
This isn't about you. Get back wiht family, friends anything. I'm so sorry reading your post. Your future can only get better - you sound smart and intelligent, so don't lose any more life on this mean person.
I'm truly sorry for your situation. Keep us posted!
Now he is accusing me of taking his VCR. we have one, i don't need 2.besides my son said that it did not work. He said it was there when we moved and it was, because my son tried hooking it up...now its gone and he thinks we came back in the house and took it...What you have to understand is this man hides and locks things up non stop...so he never knows where things are...he says he is just trying to survive....OMG.
are you serious? go *back* to what? its not as if you don't KNOW what awaits you.
get yourself to a therapist, get your kids the help that they need - and move ON.
You see he hasn't even been divorced from his 3rd wife for a yr and that cost him 70,000 dollars. I asked him if he can afford 2 divorces in a yr..that must be a record.
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