little voice

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Registered: 03-14-2007
little voice
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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:12pm
I dated a guy for about six months. He was hot and cold the whole time. We broke up and a month later I met someone new. The day after my first date with the new guy, my ex contacts me and we get together. We talk and I end up spending the night. I knew the next morning it was a mistake and nothing had changed. Don't hear from Ex again and continue to see new guy. Have now been seeing the new guy for 2 months and he is great. The problem is that I still keep thinking about my EX. Why do I still keep thinking about him when the guy that I got is an upgrade in all ways? What is wrong with me?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: seashell2007
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:56pm

Welcome to the board seashell2007,


I think what you are experiencing is pretty normal.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: seashell2007
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:56pm

Welcome to the board seashell2007,


There is nothing wrong with you. It isn't uncommon to think about ex within the months after you break up. The fact that you hooked up after breaking up probably keeps him fresh in your mind. The thoughts of him will end soon.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: seashell2007
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:57pm

Sometimes women enjoy a challenge. You may feel challenged to prove to your ex that he lost a great gal, or to get him to accept you. You might feel rebuffed that he just let things drop. It's a blow to your ego. Or, perhaps, it may be hard for you to accept a truly loving, caring partner. Some women feel more comfortable struggling to get a little love from someone who doesn't give it. They may not feel they deserve a really great guy. Don't give into these thoughts about your ex. Build up your own self esteem and allow yourself to have a relationship that is loving and healthy in everyway.


Best wishes,