live-in boyfriend problems

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2004
live-in boyfriend problems
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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 10:41pm
ok, i'm just gonna describe the situation.. i really need some advice

(im 22, he's 23, we moved in together in january, we've been together a little more than 2 years):

-he's been ignoring me

-is never happy to see me

-doesn't answer the phone when i call

-just says "no" in an angry tone when i ask if he's mad at me

-i'm pretty sure that when he does act nice, it's just for sex, then goes back to ignoring me the next day

- the list goes on.

i don't know what to do, this is killing me. i don't think he's cheating, but i can't tell for sure. when i got him to open up a tiny bit the other day, he said it's like we live two seperate lives, that we have nothing in common.

any advice would really help.. thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 11:05pm
How about moving out and living on your own or with another girl? Continue dating this guy if you wish, but at least you won't be grating on each others' nerves 24/7 and you can escape back to your own abode.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 10:19am
It's a whole new world when you actually commit to living with someone as opposed to *just dating*. You tend to see a whole new side - usually the "real" side. I think

1 - your lucky you saw this side of him before (if/when) your relationship progressed. and

2 - I think it is time to leave and go elswhere. There is no sense in you living in a situation you're not comfortable in.

You've been together for two years, I'm assuming everything was fine before you moved in together? Once your together 24/7 you learn more about the person that you would if you just saw each other several times a week and talked on the phone frequently. Again, I think your lucky you found out now instead of more years down the road - say for instance if you got married....you've now found out who he really is.

Best wishes...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 11:47am
Have a mature, heart to heart conversation with him. Tell him that you will move out if it isn't working. It seems he is afraid to tell you how he feels. Why is that?