livein byfrnd & child, y no comittment?
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livein byfrnd & child, y no comittment?
| Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:12pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years, have lived together for 1 yr and have a 5 month old son together. We share finances, friends, get along very well and love eachother very much. But... he won't commit to marriage. He says that he doesn't want to rush into it... We have a chld and live together, what exactly are we afraid of rushing into?! He insists that it isnt because he isnt sure about spending our lives together, but I feel like "what else could it be?" It is starting to cause alot of tension, mainly on my part... I feel very insecure about our relationship since he wont commit to a legal bond. My hurt is turning into anger and every time the topic is adressed, he brushes it off.... PLEASE GIVE ME ADVISE OR YOUR OPINION IF YOU HAVE BEEN IN A SIMILAR SITUATION. THANKS

Take it from someone who knows and just shelled out quite a heft sum for a wedding less than a month ago. My husband and I were dating for 7 years a nd lived together for almost 6 og them. We shared everything, the same as you Im sure. Finally, we decided to get married. The only differnece is the debt you accumulate getting a wedding togerther.Lol....Really, Im seriuous. Well, and you have a peice of paper saying you are man and wife, legally and you sometimes (If you can afford it after everything is done), a honeymoon.
Im sure its not that your BF doesnt want to get married, but he may be looking at it from a financial point of view. These, days, unless your parents are very giving,. its not uncommon for the bride and groom to pay for everything themselves, and let me tell you- its pricey.
So, If all else is going well in the relationship....dont rush things and enjoy it the way it is right now. Everything will fall into place.
Kylilla.