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| Mon, 07-02-2007 - 4:38pm |
My bf and I met in High School, about 8 years ago. Needless to say, we started dating about 8 months ago. Everything has been great, and I am 100% completely IN LOVE with him, and he loves me to death as well. We moved in together at the begining of April.
My situation is this: We signed a contract to start renting our own town house in August. We haven't moved in yet, but we have been fighting constantly. Stupid things...really really stupid things. Is it normal for couples to get stressed out and moody when they are about to move in together? We hardly ever fought before this, and now we keep getting snappy with each other. I know he is the one for me, period. Neither one of us has commitment issues...we both want this move mutually. But how do I de-stress us from this HUGE move in our relationship and our lives?
Thanks! Any advice would be AMAZING!

>>Is it normal for couples to get stressed out and moody when they are about to move in together?<<
In my experience, moving in together is a wonderful, exciting time. I would not call this type of reaction 'normal'.
Instead, I think it's got more to do with your 'honeymoon' period ending. During the first 6-9 months as a couple, the relationship looks wonderful and rosy. You've got chemicals in your brain telling you how fabulous it is and everyone is on their best behaviour. But after those months are finished, people go back to being their normal selves. What you're seeing now is very likely how the relationship would continue.
I think it would help if you give us some examples of what you're fighting over. We could help you figure out if you're looking at base incompatibility issues or not. We could discuss whether or not it's fixable.
Lastly, the stress you are under could well be caused by the fighting....not the other way around. It's likely your gut is (wisely) saying "we're doing all this fighting, should we really move in together?"