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LIVING TOGETHER, GROWING APART
| Tue, 05-29-2007 - 12:28am |
How do I get unstuck from a bad relationship? I have lived with my boyfriend for over 4 years. He has taken good care of me, in most areas of life. But one seriously neglected is the emotional aspect! He constantly controls me and puts me down. I am not allowed to have any friends or go out by myself; I am not allowed to leave the house- even to walk to the corner store (ESPECIALLY WALKS!). He plays games with my head and belittles me, in the most horrible ways- name calling, guilt trips, etc. But I can't get out! I have been isolated for so long, I have no where to go, no friends to turn to, no money, and all my family lives 1000's of miles away! I love him, but at what cost cost. I've finaly had my fill of him smothering my soul and my life!!! HELP!!!...

I agree that you need to do whatever it takes to get out. This is a bad relationship, and it doesn't seem like your boyfriend even has an idea of how controlling and scary he is. You will be in much better shape if you sacrifice a little to get out. I also advise that you cut off any and all contact with him. Do not discuss the fact that you are leaving before you actually do it. Things can quickly escalate in these situations.
Good luck.
This is not a relationship it's slavery. It's abuse. You need help to get out of this. There are boards and also support groups for abused women. Go to them. No one has the right to dictate to you where you can go and who you can talk with. If you fear that he will harm you if you do what you want, that is a dangerous, abusive situation. You need professional help. Go to your clergy, go to a clinic, get yourself to a professional person who can help you with this situation.
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Please call 1-800-977-SAFE, they can help..
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