I can understand you're feeling very lonely by the situation you described. What is your husbands response when you have tried talking to him, and written him letters? Does he want a marriage like the one you have? Does he seem like he is happy with your sitaution? If he is happy living like that is it because he is unhappy with something in the marriage and would rather just be away? I'm sorry for sounding like a broken record, but these are questions which I think would help me better understand your entire situation, and be able to offer you better advice.
There just seems like there must be some reason why your husband would rather work all the time than be at home with his family. Because that would be fine for a man who was single, but not for one who has a family. Two years ago, when you said this first started - did something happen or change in your marriage? Were you arguing a lot at that time? If you have a 1 year old, you were pregnant during that time. Did something change when you became pregnant, because that can be a common stressor for a man when his wife is pregnant, and some men don't handle it well at all.
You may not be doing your daughters any favors by staying with him if the thought of doing so makes you cringe. Sit him down and bluntly ask him if he wants to stay in the marriage, if not counseling may do no good for either of you. If he says yes ask him why.
I can understand you're feeling very lonely by the situation you described. What is your husbands response when you have tried talking to him, and written him letters? Does he want a marriage like the one you have? Does he seem like he is happy with your sitaution? If he is happy living like that is it because he is unhappy with something in the marriage and would rather just be away? I'm sorry for sounding like a broken record, but these are questions which I think would help me better understand your entire situation, and be able to offer you better advice.
There just seems like there must be some reason why your husband would rather work all the time than be at home with his family. Because that would be fine for a man who was single, but not for one who has a family. Two years ago, when you said this first started - did something happen or change in your marriage? Were you arguing a lot at that time? If you have a 1 year old, you were pregnant during that time. Did something change when you became pregnant, because that can be a common stressor for a man when his wife is pregnant, and some men don't handle it well at all.
Welcome to the board red_raspberry2005,
::If it wasn't for the girls, I would have left him a long time ago.
Well don't stay for the kids.