Long distance relationship?

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Registered: 03-09-2004
Long distance relationship?
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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 11:07pm
I had met a guy about 2 months ago. He is 32, divorced and has 3 kids. I am almost 27 and I have 4 kids. I truly love this guy and have never felt like this with anyone before (even my ex-husband). We get along so well and I know it's really moving quickly which I normally don't allow I think he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. The only current problem is he went to Florida (I live in Texas) a few days ago for college. He had this planned when I met him but I kept talking to him anyways cause I didn't think I'd fall in love. He is currently a registered massage therapist but didn't enjoy it and is going to school for computer animation and game graphics. His mom owns a massage therapy school and a salon and has since before he was born so he did it for awhile to help her. He wants to try a long distance relationship for about a year till I could get to Florida cause I can't go right now due to things going on in my life. Should I try it or is long distance a waste of time? I really love him but don't know what to do.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 4:11am
The best advice i can give you is to "LET GO"! The timing is bad right now..you are both at different stages of your life. You have children to consider..you can't just pack up and move them for someone you barely know.

Men aren't big on long distance relationships. They need companionship, SEX, on a regular basis. Before long, you will get the ole "dear john" letter telling you that he's met someone there and he doesnt want to hurt you...but SHE is THERE, and you are far far away.

I say, as hard as it is, to just let life determine your fate. If the two of you are meant to be, then you will be..its really that simple. Go your own direction..and he, in his. Sure, keep contact with each other..stay friends..if you can. But your setting yourself up for a lot of potential heartache. Timing is everything, and no matter how much the two of you care for each other NOW, when the timing isnt right, it will never work.

Let destiny be your guide.

Deborah

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 9:59am

I think it would be foolish to not at least give it a try. What do you have to lose? If you care, i think its faithless to give up and walk away that easily. Some people may disagree, but i wouldnt want to think about what couldve been.


Ultimatley, this decision is between you two..


good luck,


 

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 10:51am
GO FOR IT!

Denying a possible true love would be sad.