Long Distance Relationships

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Registered: 09-23-2004
Long Distance Relationships
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Thu, 09-23-2004 - 11:41pm
I met my boyfriend at college like toward the end of the year. We got together over the summer and everything was fine but all we could do is talk on the phone since we live a hour and a half apart and neither of us have cars.I saw him a few times over the summer but not as much as I would have liked to. Around the time school was about to start and we finally were about to see each regularly again my grandmother got very sick and I decided that I should go to a local college so I can be near her. At first he was a little upset but we decided to stay together, and I must say it is very hard. I think about him all the time and I miss him so much. I really want things to work out between us and I'm sure he does too but I was wondering if long distance relationships really work out or am I just kidding myself?
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 4:32am
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 8:50pm
I had to respond because I had a very similary situation to yours. I was going to school and met a guy there at the beginning of the summer. He was only there for the summer and would be going back home (out of state - five hours away) for a few months. Well, we were just friends but really liked each other and by the end of the summer had finally started dating - just in time for us to separate. When he left I thought that would be it but it made us realize that we really had strong feelings for each other. He had attended to come back in four months - those four months turned into eight months. So, for eight months we had this long distance relationship and it was really hard. It was especially hard because it was pretty much the beginning of our relationship that it happened. Luckily, we had a solid friendship to begin with. I flew up to see him as much as I could but that was only about once every three months. But, yes, long distance relationships do work out. We dated while separated and he came back at the beginning of the next summer. We grew closer and he proposed in October...married six months later -- we have been VERY happily married for a year and a half. It does work out but it also depends on the situation. If you want to continue with him, do so - but it will be frustrating and it will be hard. In my case, it was totally worth it.